What Do You Really Want?

By Christopher M Smith D.Hyp., MHF GQHP L.C.H. Dip.

How often have you asked yourself “what do I really want?”  Have you, like many others, just lost sight of what is really important, and got caught up in routine or doing things for others?

Many clients who seek coaching feel stuck in some way because they are unable to decide what they want.  The starting line is often a list of things that you don’t want.  Perhaps things you have been tolerating or ‘putting up with’ for a long time and finally something snaps or you grow sick and tired of being sick and tired and you realise that something is missing.  You sense that you don’t have what you really want.

How do you find out what you really want then?  What can you do to uncover the landscape of a compelling future that excites you and inspires you and gets you up and out of bed before the alarm clock goes off?

Let the enquiry begin.  Get your question out into the open, and by open, I mean get it out of your head and onto a piece of paper.  It is a very powerful way of stating that you are serious about finding out what it is that you really want - a universal declaration of sorts.

A single sheet of paper with a searching question instructs both your conscious and unconscious mind to connect you with your true desires and purpose.  If you are daunted by a blank sheet of paper, you need not worry as you have already written something on it! 

This is not something that you need to rush, take your time and conduct the widest research of self, and of others to help you in this quest.  Parents and siblings will often be able to remind you of the burning desires and ambitions you had when you were younger.  Maybe you passed something up because you thought you could never make a living out of doing something fun?  Maybe you just got distracted.

You might be carrying a belief that it is ‘selfish’ to have what you want and life just does not work that way. 

Discover where you do your best thinking, free from interruptions and distractions.  Allow yourself 20 minutes each week to ask yourself what you really want.  This is your own personal question time.  No right or wrong answers, just more information!  Ask yourself these questions to uncover new ideas:-

“If I knew I could not fail, what would I do?”
“If I had a secret passion in life, what would it be?”
“What am I telling myself about not having what I want?”
“When I am old and frail and sitting in my rocking chair what will I want to have done with my life?”
“What am I going to do differently this week that will bring a smile to my face?”
“What do I feel passionate about?”

Wherever you find passion you will find growth, possibility and renewed energy. 

Go on ask yourself again, “what do I really want?”  Now take at least one action today that will move you closer to where you really want to be.

Chris Smith was listed as one of London’s top 50 most sought after health gurus by the London Evening Standard in May of 2006.  He is a London based professional coach, hypnotherapist and practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), with clinics in Harley Street and Holland Park.  He has trained with Dr Richard Bandler and Paul McKenna in the field of NLP.  Chris holds a diploma in professional hypnotherapy issued by the Hypnothink Foundation and is certified through the Tom Silver Institute of Scientific & Clinical Hypnotherapy in Early Age and Past Life Regression Therapy.

As a member of the General Hypnotherapy Register, Chris is qualified in general hypnotherapy practice (GQHP) accredited by the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC), assuring his clients of the very best levels of care and professional standards

Since leaving a successful career in sales & marketing 6 years ago, Chris has built an enviable reputation as a talented therapist and coach, who is passionate about helping people to make amazing changes in their lives.  His corporate clients have included: - Bank of Scotland, HIFX Plc, MBNA and Time Warner.  Chris has also worked with a number of high profile actors, musicians, business gurus and celebrities. 

He has gained media exposure through his work with UKTV and more recently appeared on GMTV’s ‘LK Today Show’.  He has been featured in a number of magazines and newspapers including: -The Independent, Take 5, Attitude and the London Evening Standard.

Chris now helps people to transform their lives in business and on a 1:1 basis.  He is a mentor trainer and coach for one of the UK’s leading Life Coaching training organisations (Achievement Specialists Limited) and regularly presents and delivers training programmes alongside Curly Martin, International Author of the best seller ‘The Life Coaching Handbook’

Smith’s other interests include; charitable work for those affected by HIV and AIDS and supports a number of charities.  He has a passion for digital photography and video editing, enjoys travel and creative writing. 

Further information can be found at his websites:  www.a-wonderful-life.com and www.west4consulting.com

Email:  Chriss@a-wonderful-lfie.com  Phone:  077363 86847