The Mistaken Have, Do, Be

By Dwayne Gilbert

I look around at people in the world and I am amazed how people give themselves value. This person has a piece of paper that gives them a title, and that title becomes who they are. This guy over here buys a car, and associates that car with who he is and treats it as though it is the most precious thing on the planet and that he will be damaged if the car is damaged. I watch another person fall in love and put their entire identity into that other person as well as their happiness and joy. It makes me sad to see people and their inability to recognize their own value. It makes me sad to see people put their own value and happiness and sense of self into things that are destined to fall apart and fade instead of themselves.

Many people have this perception of have do be. They believe that what they have is based upon what they do. They can have this house instead of that one because they do this and make a certain amount of money. This is some what true because of a limit on income, however, the place that they go wrong is in the fact that they then base their own self worth on those things. They have this because they do that, and those two combined must be who they are. I live in a $75,000 house because I am a roofer and only make $11.00 an hour so therefore I am a poor roofer who works hard and barely gets by. This is so far from the way things should be. It is not what we do or have that establishes who we are, but who we are that establishes the other two.

We must learn to come at things from a be, do, have mindset. We must take the time to get to know ourselves. We must first be, then we can do and have.Who we are dictates what we do because what we do is an expression of the person we have become. It fulfills us because it is a part of who we are, not something that decides who we are. It is an expression to the world of what we represent. It is something that creates joy and happiness in our lives because it allows us to use our creativity and expression. That then dictates what we have, and if what we have is very little because we make very little at what we do then it becomes ok because we do not tie our identity to those things. We are ok with having little because we are doing it from a place of being instead of taking the things we have and allowing that to create our perception of who we are. We must always come from a place of be, do, then have.

The more you are able to recognize who you are, and who you are not, the more you will be able to find a place in the world that feels like home. Myself, I am an expressive person who loves to learn, and loves to share that information with people. Especially in the world of personal development and growth. So my natural place in the world is in writing books and articles and in expressing myself through words and knowledge. How well I do that will dictate how much I have and what I have. Mother Teresa knew who she was. A caring person who loved people unconditionally. That caused her to find a place in the world, the Catholic Church, where she was able to help as many people as possible live happier lives. That dictated what she had, which was very little, but she was ok with that because of what she was doing in the world. It wasn't at all that she was unable to find money. She was actually very good at getting funding for people in deprived parts of the world. She literally raised millions of dollars and used it to help people. So the real question doesn't come down to what you want out of life or what you plan on doing to get it. Instead, you need to ask who you are. What is your be? Answer that, and the rest will naturally come to you.

Dwayne Gilbert is the founder of http://www.wealthylifesecrets.com and has been helping people in the area of self-protection and personal development for 10 years. He has authored some of his own books and currently teaches people self-defense and personal development strategies and tactics. To get more information on the law of attraction and how to apply it, visit http://www.wealthylifesecrets.com

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