Self-Improvement And The Power Of Negative Thinking

By Peter Fisher

When we look at a certain object such as a painting for example – we won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what the subject is and what else goes with it, if the painting is just an inch or two away from our face. So we need to take it a little further away, then we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole artwork.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole bunch of information that will help us unlock our Self-improvement power. Until then, something can be right under our nose but we can’t see it. The only time we think of unlocking our Self-improvement power is when everything gets worse. Take the Lobster principle for example –

Try placing Lobster A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps! He jumps! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate the sudden change in his environment i.e. the water temperature. Then try Lobster B: place him in a pan of luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on. Wait until the water reaches a certain temperature. Lobster B then thinks “Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Lobster B in general. Today, Thelma thinks Harry hates her. Next day Patrick walks up to her and tells her he hates her. Thelma stays the same and doesn’t react to what her friends says. The day after, she learned that Kim and John also detest her. Thelma doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for Self-improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts would fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all of our teeth have fallen out. When do we realize that we need to stop smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our Self-improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, whether we like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are all going to experience different turning points in our life – and we are all going to eventually unlock our Self-improvement power not because the world says so, not because our friends are nagging us, but because we realize it is for our own good.

Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now, you don’t have to feel the heat of boiling water before realizing the need for Self-improvement. Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that "its just the way I am". It is such a poor excuse for people who fear and resist change. Most of us programme our minds like computers.

Jennifer repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister, her teacher say the same things about her to other people. Over the years, that is what Jennifer comes to believe. She believes its her story. And what happens? Every time a great crowd would arrive over at their house, or in school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy away and lock herself up in a room. Jennifer didn’t only believe in her story, she lived it.

Jennifer has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of having her story printed on her face for everyone to remember, she has to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self-improvement may not be everybody’s favourite word, but if we look at things from a different point of view, we might have greater chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would result in a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at comics will add up to a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind.

And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self-improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re beginning to take things more lightly and become happier.

Peter Fisher is an expert Author and Publisher and Webmaster for Your Positive Attitude where he writes for people undergoing personal change. Now discover everything you need from deciding what you want to do and how to reduce the Power of Negative Thinking

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